My Life in Porn: The cheating season is upon us

Friday, August 29, 2008

The cheating season is upon us

With so many friends now having affairs and there marriages falling apart, I thought I would take a different approach to the whole thing.
Almost every day I hear about another guy or sometimes girl fooling around and ther marriage falling apart due to a cheating wife or husband.
I find in almost every case the married couple have a lousy sexlife.
So whats the lesson here... long and short if you don't fuck your wife or husband someone else will.
My take is give your spouse a good sex life and few will stray when the best is still at home.
Lets face it marriage and your sexlife is something that requires work.
So ladies try out that new position , get out the garters and lingerie and maybe let him fuck you on the kitchen table that one time, send dirty picks to his Blackberry and give him that dirty phone call the possibilities are endless.
Who knows the marriage you save may be your own.
And if you decide to get the video cam out make sure you send us the pics.
Love Jenn
TheHiddenWife
and now
TheVoyeuredwife

4 comments:

Anonymous said...: I was interested to read this post, as I am in a long-term relationship and although my partner hasn't actually cheated (as far as I can tell) I do know for a fact that he has been looking around and trying to instigate an affair.

You're totally right (in my case) that it is to do with having a lousy sex life.

My only objection is that you suggest that the woman is the one who needs to improve in this area. Whilst I have indeed been rejecting his advances for some time, and I know I need to be more open, the reasons behind this rejection are:

* His lack of stamina (P.E)
* His attitude of 'me me me/my orgasm is the main objective'
* His continual use of porn, which doesn't exactly help me feel desirable

I just want to point this out - lousy sex isn't just to do with a woman not being open to new things. That's a rather clichéd and sexist point of view if you ask me...; 11:07 AM
The Hidden Wife said...: I fully agree working on your sexlife is a two way street and to many selfish men take no care of themselves and no care of there women in bed yet expect sex whenever they want it.
However I continually see women I know put little to no work into there sexlives then wonder why he is cheating.
A relationship is a ton of work on so many different levels and takes the work of both partners.
Cheers
Jenn
P.S
I hope things work out for you; 6:00 AM
Anonymous said...: Women always find reasons to say no then wonder why we leave or fool around.
I stay in shape, clean the house, work very hard and treat my wife like a queen yet the chances of sex are usually very low or at least she appears to show little interest.
Luckily I get it somewhere else.
I would not wander if she would make some effort at this point I have given up.; 6:08 AM
Anonymous said...: I love to watch my wife fuck other men so for us cheating is not and issue at all.
She gets more sex then most women and loves it.
I guess we have a less the regular marriage but I love it and her.; 4:01 AM

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Another daring photo shoot

Jim and Jenn Deans of MyWifeBucks.com recently managed to pull of an audacious outdoor shoot at Fort Jefferson, a historic landmark 70 miles offshore of Key West, Fla.

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Although they were in fear of getting caught, Jim Deans reported that the risk was worth the effort.

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Twelve billion per year. That’s what the online adult sex industry is estimated to be worth.

Clearly, there’s a lot of money to be made by selling sex online, and all kinds of webmasters are making it. It's possible for an individual webmaster to make between $200 and $400,000 per year, according to Jim Deans, who runs www.thehiddenwife.com with his wife Jenn in Ottawa. “[It] just depends on luck, skill, and how much you will put into it in time and money.”

All shapes, all sizes

Adult webmastering is not a cookie-cutter industry. In fact, online adult sites exist in all shapes and sizes. Some are one-man bands, like www.velvetecstasy.com, where webmaster Victor does everything from photographing models to creating and maintaining the Web site, and handling credit card billing. Others are run by sexually active couples who webcast their own antics for fun and profit (on sites such as www.thehiddenwife.com and www.hotpussycat.com).

“We, as a couple, were having some fun one night with our webcam and someone asked if he could pay me to get naked on the cam, so I did,” says Hotpussycat.com’s Cat Dev.

Larger companies do it all. Founded by IT programmer Mark Prince, www.2much.net sells live adult video chats between "hostesses" and customers, and sells professionally-supported versions of its LiveCamNetwork software to other webmasters. www.LiveCamNetwork.com has become such a success that the company’s Montreal studio is now the subject of the Showcase TV series Webdreams.

“We make five dollars U.S. a minute on each live video chat, and our payment to our girls per minute is 75 cents Canadian,” says Mark Prince. “The remaining money is our net profit, after we’ve covered $5,000 rent on 6,000 square feet, salaries, equipment, and bandwidth costs. If the girls work out of their own homes, they make $1.25 a minute, because we don’t have to provide the facilities.”

This is just the tip of the iceberg: There are adult webmasters who direct potential customers to pay sites for a share of the revenue (www.mywifebucks.com), run online job boards for aspiring adult performers (www.sexyjobs.com), and host adult search engines (www.booble.com).

The profits

Adult webmasters make their money in many ways. The most obvious is to charge customers to view the site after enticing them there through banner ads, word-of-mouth, or "free samples" posted on TGP (Thumbnail Gallery Post) Web sites. Charging by the minute for live video chats, where the customer sees the performer via webcam and talks with him or her by real-time text messaging, is just one version of this model. Typically, sites like LiveCamNetwork.com have their customers pay for time upfront by credit card, then debit from that payment as the clock ticks down.

Another way to make money is through affiliate programs, where different Web sites share revenue when they direct traffic to each other’s sites. Throw in adult DVDs, toys, and performer souvenirs such as preworn lingerie, and the sales opportunities appear endless.

This said, there is no "killer app" in the adult Web business, says Becky DeForest. An eight year industry veteran, DeForest runs www.stormmedia.com and is an operator of multiple adult Web sites and license holder for more than 2,000,000 adult stills and 300,000 adult movies.

“Income depends on what you do and what your goals are,” DeForest tells HUB. “I know millionaires that have made their money solely from referring memberships to other sites. I also know millionaires that are pay site owners ... I also read just about every day that someone has made their business so successful that they quit their nine-to-five gig.”

Content is king ... and queen

Whatever they are offering, adult webmasters know that content is king. Whether they hire and photograph models themselves, or use content licensed from someone else, they know that they must have the most eye-catching and convincing models possible. Otherwise, their potential clients – who are generally middle-aged white males, according to everyone we spoke too – will surf elsewhere.

“You gotta sell something that people want to buy,” says Abby Winters. “Sounds obvious, but you'd be surprised!”

In terms of which sexual preferences to cater to – within the law – “the best thing for someone to do is stick with what they personally like,” says Cat Dev. “This guarantees dedication to research, content picking and also marketing. Stick with what you like; it’s that simple. If you like it, [chances are] others do too.”

Finding good help

One might think that it would be difficult to find adult models. However, it appears that the reverse is the case in our sex-centric society, according to www.ynot.com webmaster Connor Young, who says that the industry finds the people it needs through a variety of avenues. “Advertising, word of mouth, and actually going out and finding girls at clubs, bars, events and strip clubs are the most common means.”

“We often get college girls who are comfortable with the technology, but not with working in strip clubs,” says Mark Prince. “We end up with smart performers who know computers, either working from our studios or from home.”

“Most cities have online communities of models – some online communities transcend cities or countries – and word spreads fast about bad operators,” adds Abby Winters, Webmaster of www.abbywinters.com. This is why adult webmasters need to treat their models professionally and courteously, and pay them without resorting to sexual harassment,” he says. “Demanding a [personal sexual favour] before payment is not acceptable.”

So why would anyone bare it all on the Web? Exhibitionism, an uninhibited attitude to public sex, or a desire for some form of fame are among the reasons. But don’t discount money: At 75 cents per minute, one of 2much.net’s video chat girls can make up to $45 per hour, and up to $75 per hour if she works from home.

“The best part of my job is finding a girl who's working in retail or waitressing or even at a pizza place,” says Nick, Webmaster of the video chat platform iCN . “She makes no money, her apartment is a hole in the wall and she doesn't have any way to get out of it. And then we come along, and we show her what she can do, that is worth more than she thinks she is.”

Two points that adult webmasters must remember: The models must be 18 years of age or older, and all necessary legalities must be followed in the Web site’s home country. “We went as far as to discuss what we were planning with the police before we did a single video chat,” Mark Prince says. “That’s how important it is for us to stay within the law, for the sake of ourselves and our performers.”

The perils of adult webmastering

One might think that hackers and non-paying pirates would be the adult webmaster’s biggest peril. But they aren’t. Instead, according to Ottawa’s Jim Deans, “The biggest challenge is reliable hosting from an adult-friendly hosting company, [because] any loss of a server for days or even hours can spell disaster.”

Public disdain is also a constant threat for adult webmasters. This is why when Becky DeForest is asked what she does for a living, she replies, “Internet marketing and e-commerce management. Most don't ask beyond that!”

When people do "out" someone running an adult site, things can get nasty – especially if the site features the Webmaster as an online performer. Jim and Jenn Deans know this from personal experience. After a neighbour signed up to their site and learned who they were, their suburban Ottawa cover was blown. The result was lots of press coverage – which can arguably be good for business – protests outside the Deans’ home, demands that they move away, and even vandalism of their property.

For his part, Jim Deans has taken this storm in stride. “This self-appointed moral majority will stop at nothing to keep adult material from being produced in Ottawa,” Deans told www.ynot.com; “all the while probably surfing it themselves.” Maybe so, but this incident proves that the adult Webmastering trade is not for the faint-of-heart.

The bottom line: It’s a business

Don’t let all the lurid pictures and racy hype fool you: The online adult business is just that – a business. As a result, those wishing to succeed must roll up their sleeves and work hard, just as if they were selling cars, farming fields, or auditing accounts.

“It is a retail business,” says Deans. “It is not going to the cottage on the weekend, because you have to work. It is getting up at 5 a.m. because you just had an idea, monitoring bandwidth promoting your site, watching for hackers and password traders, and occasionally taking some pics of naked ladies.”